Attention is a choice. Repetition is a feed. Becoming is the outcome.
You do not control every event that enters your life. Things arrive uninvited — a message, a loss, a comment, a memory.
What you can become more conscious of is what you continue feeding after it arrives. What keeps receiving your energy, your focus and your action.
This is not positive thinking. Awareness does not ask you to deny difficulty or call something good when it is not. It asks you to notice what you are repeating.